When I first started, I thought I understood this. I had so much faith that MF would work, but there were big parts of me that knew I had done "big name diets" before and was successful with them for a while and then it stopped being successful. Doing the same thing every day did not get me the same results. So, then I would try to game the system. Eat a little more some days, a little less others, to "fool my body". And that would work for a little while, and then I would just have too many days of eating a little more. Or I would fool myself into believing that I was really good at guesstimating how much a serving was. And that sludge was part of the plan. And that I could earn it by exercising a little more. And, then the scale would move in the other direction. And I would lose faith in the plan. And I would quit.
But here's the thing I am learning on MF: I am learning that I can do the same thing every day and expect the same results. Maybe not always immediately - some weeks feel like the scale never moves and others the scale drops by leaps and bounds, but I have faith that it will eventually move in a consistently downward spiral. I am perfectly satisfied not tweaking anything. But I have to be willing to work. Last night I was at a NYE party and the hosts BOTH asked me if I wanted a drink, or a little bite, or a little bit of X. Multiple times. Even after I had told them that I was on a diet and that I chose to stay that way. Even after I had told them that I had lost 33 pounds. Even after I said that I liked the way I was feeling. Even after they said that they would support me, but... So, I had to work all night long to exercise my "NO" muscle. "No thank you." "No thank you." "I am perfectly fine having you tell me how it tastes without having first hand knowledge." "Not this year" (mind you that last one was accompanied with a mental "or any year").
I don't know why people feel the need to "help" me decide which choices will get me to healthy. I guess because I am fat, they figure I clearly don't have the skills to be trusted to choose on my own. Or perhaps they don't want me to feel left out. Or perhaps they want their own choices to be validated. Or perhaps they figure that I have been successful so a little break won't stop my progress. I truly believe that they care for me and wouldn't consciously sabotage me.
But it will. I've done that before. Not with MF, but with other diet plans. As soon as I allow myself to vary it, even the tiniest little bit, I lose a little conviction and a little momentum. And then the next time becomes even easier.
So. For me. I need to give myself the biggest gift of all. Consistency and work. This is the magic wand I was looking for.
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